The key to a successful marriage is unselfishness. If you
can put your spouse’s needs above your own, you are on the right track. Having
the desire to fulfill your husband’s needs is in no way submitting yourself to
an inferior role as a wife. If you truly love your spouse, then you want to
make him happy, and these five things generally make men happy — simple as
that.
Every man’s needs are different; however, according to
Willard F. Harley Jr., most men have the same basic needs. While each person is
unique, these needs are what most men pick on average.
1. Recreational companionship
My husband and I are a
classic example of a couple with hardly anything in common, especially when it
comes to hobbies. We enjoy doing our own things — which can be good in a
marriage. But when we spend time together doing what he likes, it’s often a
win-win. Spending the evening golfing with my husband was never something I
would have chosen, but I ended up having a great time. In fact, it was one of
the best dates I have ever been on. Show your husband you care about him by
showing some interest in his hobbies. He may even return the favor and spend
the day doing what you want to do!
2. s*xual fulfillment
This can be a touchy
subject, but it’s an important one. One thing my husband and I have learned is
to never treat intimacy like a game — to never withhold it as punishment. Doing
so only intensifies feelings of negativity and resentment. Intimacy brings
couples together better than anything, and if it’s important to your husband,
it needs to be important to you. Whether or not marital intimacy is special
depends on the attitude and effort of those involved.
3. Admiration
In a healthy
relationship, your husband is doing his part — whether that’s having a career,
going to school, staying home with children, etc. Most of his actions may go
unnoticed. For example, my husband works 8-10 hours a day, then spends his
evenings going to school or doing homework. You may not physically see how much
your husband does for your family every day, which can make his efforts easier
to forget — out of sight, out of mind. Remember, as often as possible, show and
tell your husband how much you love and appreciate all he does for you.
4. Domestic support
Domestic support involves
the creation of a peaceful and well-managed home environment. You and your
husband may share household chores and other home responsibilities equally, or
your husband may need you to handle these responsibilities more often if he is
busy handling others. Again, in a healthy relationship, your husband should be
doing his part. If this is the case, fulfill hubby’s needs by cooking meals,
washing dishes, keeping your home clean, etc.
5. An attractive spouse
As a wife of almost 12
years, I know how familiar and comfortable wives can get with their husbands —
which is great. As a mother of four, I know how easy it is to stay in my
pajamas all day, how luxurious it is to wait and shower when I actually have
five minutes of privacy. Some days are like that, and that’s OK, but don’t let
this type of thing become a habit. Put effort into making yourself attractive
to your spouse. If you don’t see your husband until he walks in the door 30
seconds before dinnertime, schedule a few minutes beforehand to freshen
yourself up. I started doing this a couple years ago and noticed a positive
difference in my husband’s mood when he came home. Bonus: it makes me feel great,
too.
Examining these five
needs is a great way to look deeper into your marriage to determine your
husband’s individual needs. Whether a marriage is in trouble or not, when
spouses fulfill each other’s needs, the marriage becomes stronger.
Source: familyshare.com
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