Just like women have their
moods, men also have similar feelings too. Sometimes you feel like you are
taking a break after spending loving and exciting time with your man. It
doesn't mean you want to breakup but you just feel a distance.
According to YourTango relationship experts, Melanie Gorman,
relationship and communications expert Fiona Fine, author and relationship
coach Gregg Michaelsen, matchmaker and dating coach Jasbina Ahluwalia and
biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., this is actually quite common
behavior between men and women in relationships. It could actually be your
partner's way of reinforcing your bond!
Here are two top but
surprising reasons men and women decide to create distance with their partners
even though the relationship is going well:
1. He's Low On Testosterone: Men and women bond to
their partners differently. Jasbina Ahluwalia explains the confusing bonding
phenomenon like this - "Men tend to have this intense bonding. Women are
de-stressing. The bonding is making them de-stress. [It's the] opposite for the
guys. Actually, their testosterone is coming down, so they need to actually go
away, pull back, build it up. They'll spring back, too, per John Gray's
Rubberband Theory. They'll spring back to you as long as you don't chase him,
right? Don't chase him. He'll come back."
2. He's Realizing That He's
Leaving The Single Life Behind:It's a big transition from, I'm single and ready to mingle to I'm
in a wonderful relationship with this one woman. That can be jarring for a man,
which is why when a woman comes around that seems to be worth it, they take a
step back to understand their feelings and determine whether she's worth giving
up the single life. "We think three things," says Gregg Michaelson, "...I'm
not always proud of this. But we think, She's going to take all my money. She's
going to take away all my friends, and I'll never be able to sleep with another
woman again. And we think about this, and the irony is we want to spend our
money on women. We want our friends to be taken away to a certain extent (at
least some of them), and we want to only sleep with one woman. But it's up to
the woman to neutralize [those three fears]."
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